Hesitation.
Hesitating is something everyone, everywhere finds themselves doing whether they can help it or not. Yours truly included. And we hesitate in way more situations than you realize and the moments you hesitate in coming in various sizes. Now, I’d like to mention that the opposite of hesitation is impulse, and while a lot of people see impulses as a negative, I like to see everything as the Franz Kapka quote does: “it’s better to have something and not need it, than you need something and not have it”.
Hesitation, more times than not, in my life has had a negative affect on me. Most of the mishaps I’ve experienced and seen happen have been correlated to it, and the only thing I could have done was if I had been more bold and done what was needed when it needed to be done as opposed to hesitating. But, what causes you to be hesitant? Could it be the uncertainty of a situation? The lacking of a feeling of preparedness? Or is it just the little voice in your head being scared of what may happen? Doing new or important things takes you out of you comfort zone, you state of homeostasis. Hesitating prevents you from moving forward within yourself, so see as is.
Think back on any situation or time in your life. Think of the people you were around and look to see which ones have become successful. Those are the people who didn’t hesitate when it came to doing what they needed to, to become what they are now. Now think of what your ambitions were back then. Have you fulfilled them, and if you haven’t why not? Did you hesitate and put off doing the things that were required of you? I’m sure that is the case, only because that is the case with me. There are things I would think that I wanted to do, but I hesitated to get them done, which then turned to me not doing them at all. So, now I sit here and watch friends and others actually doing what I was thinking about because they went for it and got it done. They didn’t hesitate.
Ever been in a car accident? Most car accidents I’ve seen or heard about are because someone hesitated in what they were doing. Either go or don’t go, there’s no in between. You have to commit to your decision while in the car. Ever needed to tell somebody something but you didn’t, and now the opportunity has past and you can’t? You have to voice your feelings and make what your thinking known right then and there, waiting will slowly remove your chances and being able to. Even if you out at the bar and you see someone you find yourself attracted to, go talk to them before someone else does. I bet if you wait then you lose your chance and won’t be able to meet them.
Basically, what I’m saying is you’re the one holding yourself back because you keep hesitating instead of just making the decision to do something when the opportunity is in front of you. Sometimes you luck out and the opportunity is still there when you finally come around to going after it, but even then you’ll realize that you could have had it much earlier. And if it’s too late, you’ll always wonder “what if?”. What if you had made the call right then, could you be on your way to what you wanted to be doing right now. To put things in simple terms, DON’T BE AFRAID OF SUCCESS!!!