You will never be able to “move on” from anything in your life. A moment, an event, a life, a loss of one, whatever it may be. Because these things that happen to you, or involve you, are now a part of you. They’re a part of your being/spirit/existence/timeline/path. And they’re very real. Like an accident, a sudden change in lifestyle, losing a loved one, losing a baby, losing a person, or a relationship. You can’t run away from things like this no matter how hard you try.
You are not the same as you were before that happened and you won’t ever be. There is no “going back to the way it was”.
If you continue to try and move on from moments in your life looking to get back to before, you’ll find yourself going nowhere, Because moving on is your attempt to leave a part of yourself behind, and your soul won’t let that happen. The next big moment in your life cannot come to you without the experience and knowledge from the moments prior, whether they were good or bad. And As crappy as these things are and how bad they may feel, they are a part of you now. I can’t walk away without my arm, it’s connected to me. Just like I can’t walk away without my trauma. It’s part of me now.
There’s no correct timeline for you to be in a position to move forward to your next phase, but there is one thing you can control; how long it takes.
Take a second to think about what your decisions could possibly entail for you in your future. And think about what ripple effects you cause in the lives of those around you as well. Because even if you don’t feel big or important, you have an impact on a lot more people than you think, just like how others have made a lasting impact and change on you.
I am not who I am today without the things that have happened to me. And you are not who you are without what has happened to you. These things shouldn’t define you, but they now have a place in your makeup as a person, so embrace it.
Life is weird and works out in the oddest ways. It can tear you apart if you let it. Don’t.