“I plan on” or “I might”
I have a big bone to pick with the idea of talking about the things you think you might do. Too many people speak about what they plan on planning to do, and I am one of the culprits. I learned awhile ago that speaking on things you have thought about making moves towards is almost like sabotaging yourself. I see people all the time who get so much satisfaction from telling people what they “might” do, or what they’re “thinking about” doing, that they never get around to actually doing it.
So, I decided to make a change in how I approached my goals and plans with the first step being to keep them to myself. In my opinion, nobody but you needs to know about your plans because nobody can help you when you’re just in the planning stage. Reveal yourself when you have all your loose ends tied and are ready to move forward, because otherwise what you planned to do means nothing. Basically, either do it and complete it or don’t. No one wants to hear what you might do. In a social setting, it is wise to keep your plans to yourself. Telling others who have done what you plan on doing is unimportant and doesn’t help anybody. It’s a stagnant statement that goes nowhere, so be worried about the things you’ve done and be a finisher, not a “think-abouter”. If that’s even a thing.
“I almost ___”
The other deterrent of progress that I’ve seen is the use of the crutch “almost”. So many people are so worried and perplexed about things that ALMOST happened, either in general or to them. Now, you should absolutely acknowledge these things that almost come to fruition because it lets you know that it is possible, but also realize that there was something that prevented it as well, so take note, learn from it, and move forward. Moments that almost happened shouldn’t be given the same space as things that did because they in fact did not happen. And it makes a lot of sense to not let things that didn’t actually happen take up real estate, so that’s why its somewhat baffling to see people let that happen. Eliminate the power that “almost” holds, good or bad, and focus what actually happens in your life. The real occurrences. And on another social note, no one cares what you almost did or said, or what almost happened to you because that doesn’t matter. It didn’t happen, so there’s no reason why any one should be worried of it.
“Almost” can be detrimental regardless of it being something good or bad. For example, being scared to drive because you almost got in an accident one time isn’t beneficial to you. But also, being consumed by something good that almost happened can lead you in circles eventually spitting you out no further than when you started. Like gambling in a casino, you continue to bet and bet because you keep ALMOST winning. Almost doesn’t pay you out, all it does is set you up and keep you putting your money on the table for you to lose.
All I am trying to say is you shouldn’t worry about the things you might do, or what has almost happened to you because they get you nowhere, they don’t lead to progression. Focus your mind on what you get done and what actually happens to you promotes growth in both yourself and your place in life because you’re only worried about things that are there. So, keep silent in your moves, only reveal what you’ve done, and take note of the real occurrences in your life and you will see yourself making moves forward instead of becoming stagnant.