There is only one person who is the culprit of all your problems.
And that person is YOU.
The good news about that is when you look yourself in the mirror every morning, the person you see has the answers to all the problems in your life. The answer may be anything from an attitude adjustment to a complete change in your decision-making and ethics. The bottom line is that you hold all the cards to your happiness.
A lot of your success in life, regardless of what that may be, can be attributed to how you approach life in itself, specifically situations you find yourself in. Also, how you carry yourself from day to day can be an indicator on how you will fair in life.
You Can Think Things Into Existence
This idea may sound kind of far fetched if you take it too literally. Like you can’t actually just think really hard and have something appear, but I trust everyone knows that already. This involves the tactic of visualization, where you see yourself doing the thing you want, or being where you want to be. Your thoughts revolve around achieving this goal. You think out the things you need to do, how you’re going to do it, and when you’re going to do them. The decisions you make on a day to day basis have this in mind, and you make the decision that propels you forward towards your goal. For example, if I want to run a marathon in 6 months, I have to make the obvious changes to get to the point where I will be able to do that. Running, diet, recovery, etc. Those are the basic changes everyone knows about, but the successful people do more than that, they constantly think about what they do with their time and what they put into their bodies. Do the people they hang around help promote their choices or are they detrimental to the goal? Will eating this affect my workout tomorrow? What decisions will I make that will cause a ripple effect of bad workouts, which will put me behind schedule and cause me to miss out on progress?
These are the things I am talking about when I talking about thinking something into existence. It’s not going to happen if I just think about it, my thoughts and overall thinking have to push me in the right direction of what I’m looking to do. Any lapse in thought can make you become stagnant, and make you fall behind so you won’t be where you want when the opportunity arrives.
You Can Attract Good and Positive Things By Having A Likewise Attitude
People are attracted to positive things and are repelled by negative ones. It’s quite simple. By being positive and being someone who lights up a room, you will attract more people and opportunities to you. But, you’ll be able to differentiate between good and bad intentions because they will match your genuineness or not. Nobody really enjoys themselves when they’re around someone who is constantly negative, so if you think that someone will go out of their way to come and lift you up over and over again, newsflash; they won’t. Maybe once or twice, but once you become a burden you will find yourself wallowing in your own self-pity by yourself because you affect others around you. But there’s good news! While negativity affects people around you and causes them to repel, a positive attitude is so much more contagious. And the better news is that your attitude is the single biggest, and most important, thing you have control over! You can’t control the weather or traffic or whatever else is bugging you, but you can control how you react to it. You can either succumb to the cruddiness, or you can decide to make the best of it. Find the positive with in the negative.
This can help make any bad day you have better, while also improving the days of others around you. It’s amazing how just a little different view on something can cause a huge shift in the outcome of your day. When you carry yourself that way and take control of how you handle situations, you affect not only yourself but your friends and family around you. You and your friends have a great time while doing the most mundane things, and you can look back and recall how much fun you had while painting or doing yard work. If you had a subpar attitude doing those things, you remember that day as boring and no fun at all. It’s really up to you.
Some of the happiest people in the world have nothing at all, while people that have everything are unhappy. It’s all about how you look at your situation and the attitude you bring forth to the occasion. That’s it. So next time think about your situation like that, flip the switch. And if you can’t, do something you enjoy than helps put you in that state of mind. It’s all on you!
You Decide What You Do
Nobody is going to look out for you like your own self. So do things with that in mind. Why are you doing something? Is it for yourself or is it for someone else? Does doing this for someone else bring you enjoyment? No? Then don’t do it. Easy peasy. That can be anything from your job to a certain social setting. While you have control over your attitude, you also have control of where you go and who you’re around. The equation is simple: if it makes you feel good, then continue to do it; if it makes you feel bad, then don’t do it anymore. Prioritize your time for things that fall in the good category. For example, if you like hiking rather than drinking at a pool party, then pass up on the party and go for a hike. You wont be worried about how others feel about it because you’ll be too busy doing something you enjoy and makes you feel good. So, consciously put yourself in advantageous positions while simultaneously removing yourself from situations that put you at risk or stress you out.
You Don’t Have to Wait On Anybody Else To Make You Feel Whole
You can start doing that right now. They only person who can really make you feel whole is you. Because you are the only person within your self, theres nobody else inside your head who can do these things for you. You are enough, and you should treat yourself that way. There’s a quote from the movie Spiderman: Homecoming, where Tony Stark asks Peter Parker for his suit back and Peter responds with, “But I’m nothing without the suit!” and Stark replies, “If you’re nothing without the suit, then maybe you shouldn’t have it.” I think that exchange exemplifies the issue with a lot of people where they put too much of themselves into material things and even other people, and depend on them so much that it defines them as a person. They lose site of who they are and what they stand for.
On the contrary, there is a different marvel comic book quote that think exemplifies what I’m talking about when it comes to making yourself whole as opposed to finding other things to do that. It’s a quote from a Thor comic from Thor himself. While in the heat of battle, his enemy knocks his hammer out of his grasp to gain the upper hand. Thor initially tries to retrieve it claiming that he only has 60 seconds to regain it, but then makes a decision not to. “Let it lie! If I cannot defeat this evil being bare-handed within one minute, I am not worthy of the name Thor!” This is a realization that he is the powerful being that makes all of his victories possible, the hammer isn’t the key component, he is. The hammer is just an accessory to him. He is “whole” without it.
Biggest Regrets
The biggest regrets in life, mine at least, are not the things that happen outside of yourself, but what happens inside. It’s the things that happen within your mind that project out into the world, the things you have control over. Like, how you treat others, react to certain situations, and the decisions you make either consciously or subconsciously. Decisions that others make, may affect you in a certain way, but it will never resonate with you like a decision that you make. And how you partake in that event will stick with you for a long time. Things like “I should have/shouldn’t have said something” seems to be a pretty prominent thought that pops into my head. The signs were there that something was wrong, but I let it be and it made a turn for the worse. Leaves you thinking that if you had just said something like you wanted to, maybe you could’ve made a difference. And the same goes for the opposite, where you wanted to stay quiet but something caused you to blurt out and now you’re in a predicament you didn’t want to be in.
Final Thought
You can consciously decide how you uphold yourself, and that is one of the greatest tools you posses. As long as you stay true to yourself and who you are you cannot fail. So don’t fail yourself, you’re all you got.